Revenge, party of one...

Hopefully Snopes gets a hold of this and debunks it before it becomes a major motion picture, but this has been making the internet rounds:

http://www.addictinginfo.org/2014/12/05/louisa-manning-finally-gets-chance-to-smack-down-bully-from-middle-school-and-does-it-brilliantly/

I'm happy to see that the majority of commentators in the Facebook realm have been in concert with my take on it, and not like those fat losers that think the ugly fucking bitch is some kind of heroine.

Well, I wouldn't quite put it that way, not at this age, but I was pleased to see that most people's take on the whole thing was that the guy in the story had grown up and out of his childhood self and the girl had not.

It's great that she turned out to be attractive eight/ten years later but she's clearly still stuck in the emotional past. The boy, as man, is not. We don't know what he looks like but we can assume he's quite attractive because she did not happy dance at his weight gain, hair loss or disfiguring scars from a well-deserved tragedy. I think she very well would have delighted in those happenstances, had they happened. Her revenge was looking good and standing the guy up so that he would feel rejection. Ouch. That's "brilliant"?

Come now, is it fair to judge the guy by his 12 year old self, ten years after? If she is no longer a "hairy man-beast" maybe he is no longer a bully? Would you like to be judged by your 12 year old self?

I recall a former love of mine who was blonde, 5'7", 118 pounds- quite spankable, when this Ferrerman knew her. By almost all accounts she was all that and a bag of chips. Yet I spoke with a few women who insisted she was a "fat pig", not just back in school but fat pig emeritus, in their minds. Clearly these were young women who had bullied her at the time and reserved the right to bully her for the rest of her life, regardless of how she looked. Some people never grow up. Some people were assholes at 12 and would still be assholes ten, twenty- sixty years later. There's a word for people like that. The word is assholes. These girls were thisclose to that.

But, a lot of kids who were 12 years old at one point, are years and decades older now. They grew up, evolved, matured. Louisa Manning makes a deal of him asking her out instead of immediately apologizing to her. She presumes that dinner was to be a prelude to him fucking her now beautiful self. That may have crossed his mind but we don't get that story because she cut him off before dinner. That was her victory, her revenge.

I'm of the opinion that he most likely intended to make amends for his youthful indiscretions over a nice dinner while they caught up on the past ten years. Of course, he never got the chance. However, we did. He seemed to have turned out well. She's 12 years old with the body of a 22 year old.  I won't diminish anyone's childhood torment here because I know full well how real that is for so many hundreds of millions of people. But at some point people have to get over it and realize that maybe they aren't 12 anymore and that maybe their tormentor grew up, while they did not.