Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Department Of Corrections

Well, it seems that the ex-Marine, New Jersey, lesbian waitress might not have been as discriminated against  as we were led to believe Let's go to the videotape:http://www.nbcchicago.com/news/national-international/Gay-Server-Tip-Lifestyle-Receipt-Discrepancy-233040811.html

The couple seems legitimate. They weren't identified and thus ridiculed in the initial story and there stepping up  now is in the shadows. They aren't looking for 15 minutes of fame in silhouette and, since the public doesn't know it was them and they've been wrongly outed as homophobes,   it's not as if they could sue the restaurant for damages.

I think they are just coming clean because a disturbed individual created a ruckus for their own self-aggrandizement.

As a Ferrerman, I deal with that a lot. You may have noticed. Lots of sick puppies out there, on and off the internet.

I'm also wondering if we got the real story with the Richie Incognito bullying scenario. I began to wonder about this actually shortly after the story broke and I caught part of an interview with Incognito. (Ferrerman note: Can you help but smile at that name? Sounds like a name for a kids cartoon,  "Richie Incognito- Boy Detective!") Anyway, Incognito seemed dazed and confused by the allegations and he was actually quite a bit more well-spoken and presentable than I would have expected.

There was a brief national dialogue about bullying and how bad it is. But, it never really took off. Maybe it was hard for us to grasp that guys as big as Jonathon Martin could be bullied. For the record, I stand by my assessment that bullying is often psychological and that that can trump size any day. There is no standard scenario here. Even republicans didn't seem too interested in condemning liberals and Obama for making America weak by giving every loser kid a plastic trophy for showing up for Little League.

So, it could have happened but, I'm wondering if it did. The locker room culture of the NFL was brought to the forefront and I can see that being a factor there but hardly anywhere else in life. Incognito's black teammates may indeed see him as one of them- "an honorary nigger".  That's their problem if they self-identify like that. I'm sure there is a certain way pro football players talk to each other just as there probably is a certain way soldiers talk to each other and I know there is a certain way construction workers talk to each other. And none of these are commonly acceptable amongst strangers on the street. One man's fightin' words might be a pro footballer's greeting and salutations.

So, though uncouth and vulgar, it's probably the way they do things, at least among the Miami Dolphins. That doesn't justify, it just explains. It might just be that Incognito is an acceptable jerk in one environment but, not in public, and that Martin wasn't open to that and probably has other issues. He left the team and, to my knowledge, hasn't given any interviews. I thought that was kinda odd. He must really have wanted to be left alone. How unusual. That's a trend in itself maybe?

Saturday, November 23, 2013

Topix Taliban

Everybody knows that, if you don't like a conversation on the threads, you just scroll on by. Some people actually do this even. My haters do this. They just stop long enough to ring up a few negative icons and then they move on, usually without comment. There motto is:

I don't care what Ferrerman says, I offend his right to say it!

What a stupid motto! But, it kinda fits.

I don't mind people telling me that I'm wrong. I just would rather hear why I'm wrong rather than some cheesy, weak icons.

The Topic Taliban exists everywhere on the threads and elsewhere on the internet. They are anywhere someone is discussing something that someone else just doesn't want to hear about. Some people can't scroll. They want to control.

I see this on Facebook on various news sites quite a bit. Inevitably, someone posts: "WHY IS THIS NEWS???" The odd part is that it's often on a news site like the NBC page. Have they ever watched the news on TV or read a paper? It's been like this since the beginning of time. It can't always be hard news, can it? Some people like fluff as well as less newsworthy stuff like school closings or obituaries.

If you spot some fluff on the NBC site on Facebook, move on! You don't have to read it. Whining about it will not help. News just might be like pornography. I don't know what it is but, I know it when I see it. The other side of the "why is this news coin" is the "Why ISN'T this news???" that reichwingers commonly refrain when the Lame Stream Media doesn't cover their made up, anecdotal stories about Black people getting away with killing white people now that Obama is in office. Story for another day. Ya just can't please everybody!

But, pleasing everybody is not the goal of most folks whose motto tends to be, "me, Me, MEEEEE!!!" Those folks just can't scroll. They must control!

Topix is chock full of people I have little or no interest in reading. I scroll like a motherfucker, to coin a phrase. Save for a handful of friends, there are few names I view that cause me to click and read. I hate to break troll hearts (that's a lie: I love to break troll hearts!) but, there are no good trolls out there with marquee value. Frankly, there aren't even any good republicans with interesting takes on politics.  Why do I do this then? Well, I like to fight and I'm good at it. Topix can't be all reichwing hatred and bullying ya know.  It could also be more interesting? Maybe?

I don't know about that. Too many factions see it as personal email for their sect, a way of keeping in touch with others and knowing how they are doing. (It turns out, they are doing OK. Yay! How 'bout you?) The Chicago Dregs thread is like that. It's boring with intermittent spurts of interesting that are usually squelched by someone complaining about the direction the posting is taking. Back in the day, one girl used to almost literally jump in screaming "STOP IT! JUST STOP IT!!!" if someone dared get political. They had set up separate threads for things like politics and sex talk and everyone could go there...or else....

People would but, ya know, it's just not the same when dialogue is channeled like that. Who needs a traffic cop saying: The Vietnam War, Civil Rights and the Kennedy assassination and it's effects on both? Oh, that's not here. You need to take that kinda talk there, not here. You can take it there and anyone who has an opinion on that can go along there because some don't want to talk about that here, now. You understand, don't ya? By the way, how are you? My lumbago has been acting up lately....

I just like conversation better when it flows, when it just happens in the moment. It seems a lot more interesting without parameters and gatekeepers controlling or stifling.  Of course, I'm a liberal democrat. How clueless, nuts and spam is that!? 

Wednesday, November 20, 2013

Political football

The Sunday morning shows. It's hard to tell the political talk shows from the NFL TODAY-type shows that follow. It's the same format, with men in suits sitting down at a table, talking about the game, looking at video clips, analyzing each move. Pontificating. What's gonna happen today? What's next? Who is gonna win? What do you think, Chet?

Politics is entertainment just as sports are. Or, sport is, as Mitt Romney- former QB for the GOP in the '08 Election Bowl, might put it.

Politics is a team sport. We just watch and buy the memorabilia. I'm really no more a democrat that I am a Chicago Bear. You may think you're a republican but, I don't see you in the Senate Chambers.

We all just watch and root, Root, ROOT for our home team. We want them to win because if they win, WE WIN!

Politics seriously means as little in life as a Bears win or loss. And I think we have as little say in  politics as we do on the gridiron. We do not play the game. We just watch and hope. We want our team to win. More importantly- and you White Sox fans know what I'm talking about- we want the other team to lose. And lose badly. Story for another day but, Sox fans would rather hear that the Cubs lost than watch the Sox win.

Kinda obscene, eh? But, that's the way most republicans look at politics these days. If you can't win at all costs, pray for the other team to lose, at all costs. If they lose, you *win*. An entire nation of republican fans wants nothing less than the President Of The United States to fail! They hope Obama loses! This is like setting fire to your house because you are tired of your mother-in-law living with you and you want her out...NOW! Burn that fucker to the ground so she can't bother you anymore. GO TEAM!!

Day in, day out, the two sides compete seemingly against each other for our entertainment dollar and- unlike the Bears and Packers- supposedly for our benefit. Sorta. If Obama and the democrats fail, and fail miserably and- for example- we have another recession and- even better- an actual depression(!) the republicans win and get the ball back! How 'bout that!?  GO TEAM!!!

Politically, some people are tired of play after play of each team running the ball in the middle, picking up a yard or two. We want big plays! Republicans at least, want their team to run up the score, annihilate the democrats and let the people have candy for breakfast! Victory! GO TEAM!!!!

Some really don't seem to want the competition anymore judging by what I read not only on Topix but on just about every internet site about practically anything these days. It's pretty vicious out there. A link might be about "Batkid" and all that happiness folks in San Francisco put together to make that child's young, short life a a dream come true, but, before you know it, Jokers will be ruining the love with comments about Obama and those awful, awful liberals....

Well, that's the hardcore fanatics of he fans. There's @310 million people in this country. I don't know how many follow the NFL. Ten million? That's a lot but just a fraction of the country. Double it and it's still nowhere near a majority. 50 some million people vote in presidential elections. Nowhere near that number watch FOX, MSNBC  the Sunday shows or post on Topix or reichwing sites combined. Politics, we're just not that into you.

Should we be? The fate of the nation does rely on what our politicians do and it would really be nice if more people cared but...when they do they paint their faces, go bare-chested in December weather and scream to kill the other side. It's hard to tell the Tea Party from Giants fans. I don't think I just differentiated them.

Our politicians are going to do what they are paid to do, on the behalf of those who pay them to do. Them is not us. We're just the fans. We fill the seats and pay the bills but, they don't do it for us. They do it for themselves. And if our favorites don't do it this week, they'll get 'em next week. Or next year? Whatever, they still get paid.

And I don't watch the Sunday shows or the NFL Today. They both ruin the game for everybody, don't they?

Saturday, November 16, 2013

Identity Crisis..

They sure can pick me!

Is it 'they' though? Are we dealing with super-villains? Or just a super-villain in the singular case?

Personally, I think it's one not-so-super-villain of many 'faces' on Topix, of course. Dedicated non-readers know that original troll went by Angelique 770. Her off Topix name at the time was Angelique DeSaussin. Well, that and an email address will get you a fake avatar on the threads and then you become Angelique770- but, Angelique DeSaussin to your off-Topix friends. It's not very exclusive. Kevin Knoop had like a hundred avatars. Ya know, for all I know he was/is Angelique 770. Nothing is impossible on Topix.

I'm fairly certain that A770 became Sam. They both had the same obsession with me and Sam has shown a penchant for posting an entry from EEE's dead blog of three years ago, with her take on the old kerfuffle from the Dregs thread. It was a pretty obvious connection as an idiot like Sam would not have known of the blog in the first place. Sam was either A770 or had been given the info by A770 for trolling purposes.

You have to take people at the face value that they 'show' on the internet. Gender is one of those intangibles that you just have to roll with. As time went on I had to seriously question A770's womanhood. There was just stuff that didn't seem womanly. Feminine- but not womanly. I figured a gay man. You can wonder why a gay man would infiltrate what was largely a group of women on the internet but, why does anyone do any of the crazy things we hear about on the 'net? The short answer, I guess, is because they can.

Yep, just like why a dog licks his balls. Same premise!

Well, I think they actually do that to keep their balls clean, but, I digress. A770  was water under the troll bridge a few years ago. She became Sam who didn't act any less odd when he decided to make stalking me his life's work. He was vicious in a very bitter way as if scorned. He claimed it was because I had been rough on his friend, Craig, a poster of many names, and another in a long line of phony Topix Vietnam combat veterans. Sheesh.... Can a grown man admit to such a mission of vengeance? Sam did.

Why is it all my trolls seem alike, regardless of alleged gender? How is it that they all know each other? Lately someone often named "Michael" has been trolling me. He doesn't bother to say 'why'. At this point does a reason matter? Of course it's another incarnation of A770/Sam. Why should there be a third fucking idiot who dedicates their life to trolling me for some internet slight? I can't be that special, can I? There are a lot of disturbed people in the world but...what are the odds...  I guess some people take political ass whuppin's harder than others, Yeah, that must be it. I'm a democrat and I must be stopped at all costs... With Michael that cost means posting my name and a Facebook photo of me and Ernie Banks, on Topix when he feels bold. Sports fans know Hall Of Famer  Ernie Banks as Mr. Cub. Trolls, evidently, don't know him at all.

Anyway, Michael gets frustrated easily and he vents by doing things like that. Yikes. How do you combat a badass troll like that?  Well, it's the internet- what can you do? The punk hides pretty well. I assume others like Carla Burgess or maybe Michael Pruden might know who Michael/Sam/Angelique 'really' is. They might only know one of the characters anyway. I'm sure they giggle when he posts my name and photo. It's no big deal  to them but, I gather they delight in this vicariously. It seems to be all they have. I seem to be all they have. And don't get me started on Princess Billy and his twin sister!

Who will she/he think of next? I don't know but this shit never ends.

The infringement of regulations

In the mindset of the founders and their time, why was the 2A necessary? Clearly it was for militias to fight the British or any other threat. I'm inclined to believe it was also about those militias putting down slave rebellions. Now- given the times- what it is NOT about is the founders seeing a need for men to be running around with guns all the time, just because they felt men should always be armed. Every see any paintings of our founders going to church or dinner, armed? With hunting as THE way to put meat on the table, at the time, it was obviously not about hunting or any efforts of the time to eliminate that. And looking at the way we stole this country from the Indians, it should be very clear that every farmer at the time also needed guns to protect himself and to prevail over the natives. So, people need to stop thinking of the founders as fortune tellers or men of supernatural vision who looked into the future and saw a time when every American should be armed to the teeth...against other Americans. I'm pretty sure they saw better things for this nation than the macho bullshit of every accountant walking around with a fully automatic rifle and a couple of handguns.

Full auto wasn't a misprint. What part of "...shall not be infringed" do you not understand? Gun nutters misunderstand the entire phrase. They think it means NO regulation, at all! 

What part of "well regulated militia" are they missing? 

A writer for Guns & Ammo magazine was recently fired because he stated that American gun owners should realize that ".... all constitutional rights are regulated, always have been, and need to be."

That's a fact. Here's the 2A in it's entirety:

"A well regulated militia being necessary to the security of a free state, the right of the people to keep and bear arms shall not be infringed."

So, "well regulated" is in there and so is "shall not be infringed".

"Pick one" is not in there however.  The G and A writer,  Dick Metcalf, angered a lot of the readers and, worse perhaps, the gun manufacturers who financially back the magazine by saying there is a need for regulation. Fightin' words?

Guns are a business. They are the only business seemingly Constitutionally endorsed. Well, no, they're not but, that's really the point here. Left to their own devices, gun manufacturers would love no restrictions on their product and, like any business would, they would sure love the wording of the most important document in the nation's history as their marketing and legal department! So, they have people running around screaming, "SHALL NOT BE INFRINGED!!" and even acting like they'd like to go to war with America if the gun makers are infringed. That's some customer loyalty not seen since Tareyton asked their smokers if they'd rather fight than switch.

It's one thing to have the Bible so open to interpretation when it was co-authored by so many, so long ago and translated from languages that no one really speaks any more. It's really crazy to adapt that to 21st century life. It seems to me a word here and a phrase there  could be a real game changer if interpreted loosely. same with a couple hundred years past, in English, in our Constitution. Many people today cannot comprehend "regulated" and "shall not be infringed". We need to make it a bit more in tune with the current times.

See, I seriously doubt that our Founders envisioned a future of machine guns anymore than they thought of airplanes and space travel. Quotes from "Shane" aside, guns were necessary, if not cantankerous, tools of the time. I can't see where the founders envisioned the need for guns ever being questioned except, perhaps, in a we might need militias in the future to protect us from other countries, kind of way. And frankly, some folks think the militia wording was included for putting down slave rebellions.  http://truth-out.org/news/item/13890-the-second-amendment-was-ratified-to-preserve-slavery I think it's pretty clear they figured Americans- of the non-slave and non-native variety- white people- would always need guns. But, they didn't delineate it as such now, did they?  Why?

I think it was because they were talking about militias. That other stuff was a given. It took years to write the Constitution. It wasn't because they were arguing about whether slaves should have guns or not. I think they all agreed on that. Golly, what part of "...shall not be infringed" did they not get?

That verbiage, concise as it is, is also wide open. Full Metal Jacket gun nuts think the 2A provides for armed rebellion if "government gets too big for its britches". I gather that's how they see the 'militia" part? Sheesh, they must have translated from the original ancient Hebrew written between the lines in invisible ink to get that. Well then it should follow that "...shall not be infringed" would seem to dictate that prisoners can have guns. And babies.  And insane people. Criminals too. Everybody! Well, except slaves, of course as they were but 3/5ths of a person at the time. But, other than slaves, what part of "...shall not be infringed" are folks NOT understanding when they deny babies, criminals and others guns?  It seems to me the 2A seems to be saying: "GUNS FOR ALL AND ALL FOR GUNS!!! WOO HOO!!!!!"  Not allowing folks to have fully automatic rifles and flame throwers would seem to infringe as well. These people think paperwork in the purchase of a weapon or in order to carry a weapon is infringement. In short, ANY regulation at all is infringement. If it "goes without saying" that prisoners (and all) can't have guns then, guess what? That's regulation! If you (rightly) think that prisoners give up the right to bear arms in prison because of laws and common sense, that's regulation AND infringement!

Complicated? Only if you want it to be. And only if you realize that, if guns are your business, you want complicated. Complicated is good for business. The vagueness of the Second Amendment turned out to be marketing genius. Regulation. How can law and order be such a bad thing for some people? That's business! And business is good. It's all in how you interpret it.

Friday, November 15, 2013

Tipping in the time of Sodom and Gomorrah


This seems to be happening a lot lately. By a lot, I mean about once a week. Church folks are rising up against the tyranny of the homosexual lifestyle in the restaurant industry and telling gay and lesbian servers that they are getting stiffed- and not in the good way- for their gayness! They are being told in no uncertain, passive/aggressive terms written on receipts that, "NO TIP FOR YOU!"  is today's special!

Is their something in the Sunday sermons about this or are these people just cheap?

This Ferrerman tended bar for about 15 years. No one ever not-tipped me and said it was for gay reasons. I know this because I'm not typing this from the prison library having received a life sentence for beating the hell out of the scumbag... Not everyone tips a bartender. You just accept that. Some don't out of ignorance. Some are cheap. Some are all that plus assholes.

Really, only one instance when a customer did not tip and explained why stands out in my memory. Some piggish-looking guy had been taking up space at the bar, drinking Southern Comfort Manhattans. He wasn't a regular of any sort. We were located near a shopping center. I had never seen him before and would likely have never seen him again. He chatted me up a fair amount about this and that. Rather unremarkable until, upon leaving he scooped up his money and stated: "Well, times are tough! Gotta keep track of every dollar..."

I lit into this sorry bastard pretty good. I didn't care about his two dollars like he did. Take your money and walk away from the bar with no explanations. There are no reasons in this situation. Well, no good ones. If you give a dance, you gotta pay the band. If you chose to go out drinking, you should tip. If you can't afford to tip, stay home with a bottle. At least keep your mouth shut when you leave. 

It's not like people had more tact back then. I knew waiters and waitresses who had chased non-tippers outside to berate them. As a bartender, I made $5 (usually in cash) an hour plus tips. This was in 20th century dollars, I might add. I dealt with a volume of people, most of which tipped something so it all added up and the money was good. But, a server works their ass off for pretty much each table and the hourly rate they get is a wash with taxes. They survive strictly on tips. Do not fuck them. Poor service sure enough does happen and one is under no obligation to reward that but, take it up with the manager. They need to know what is going on with their employees. Some people leave a penny to show their dissatisfaction rather than nothing which might mean they 'forgot'. I couldn't do that. A server usually knows when they are incompetent or having a bad day. It'll come up in conversation. Even so many years removed from the business, I can tell poor service, from a bad night, from incompetence pretty easily. If the server blames the bar or the kitchen for their fumbling, you can pretty much bet your life you're looking at THE problem. Blaming the bar was how waitstaff was trained at one place I worked. Larry Mysterioso and I were standing behind a nearly empty bar one Saturday night when the Greek pig owner came out to yell at us for being "slow" in our service to the staff. A new waiter had blamed us for his incompetence. The Greek pig noticed right away that we had absolutely nothing to do but, he was never one to let outrage go not unleashed. He screamed and went back to expediting in the kitchen. Later he came out and sorta apologized and asked us to keep an eye on that server. Duh! Their training had been known to us for some time. One of my better waitresses told me of hearing another waitress schmooze-talking to one of her tables for ten minutes and then walk about 4 steps over to the next table and, with a straight face, explain that she was late in getting there to take their order because the bartender was slow! Unfuckingbelievable. Who knows how often that happened? Probably most people failed to see through it.

There was also an incident recently where a Xtian took the time to write out something about their giving the Lord 10% so why should they give the server that or more?


Back in the day, a girlfriend dragged me to one of those mega-churches. It was non-denominational and had a rock band and audiovisuals that made for a very pleasurable service. The 'preacher' had been chaplain to the Chicago Bears at some point. I'm not religious, having been forced to attend church as a child but, I did enjoy the show for everything it was not. This was in the Northwest suburbs and it was a kick to see the decidedly monied crowd with their furs and jewelry for a Wednesday night service. There were often a few Chicago Bears in attendance. The church didn't do weddings, baptisms or any of the usual church stuff. I think they just printed money. The young preacher had no problem proclaiming that they had hit the $50k the previous Sunday so, PRAISE THE LORD, THE LOOT's BEEN PASSED! I didn't care for the hypocrisy but, this guy gave good sermons!

One night he chastised the congregation for stiffing the servers at the local restaurant. Evidently large groups had been doing this for awhile at a nearby pancake house. His whole sermon that evening was about this. I, of course, was a bartender and my girl was a waitress so this thrilled us both. He went on about how hard servers worked and how they depended on tips. It was his best sermon since the one where he wanted to meet the person who was spreading rumors about him and his wife being adulterers, in the parking lot of the church, to beat the shit out of him. There would be no turning the other cheek except to punch that other cheek or kick that other ass cheek! This appealed to my most primal Ferrerman instincts. Does your minister talk like that? It was pretty neat.

WWJD?  Jesus would probably address tipping like this: "Render onto Flo or Alice, 15% for decent service and 20% for really good service. And judge not Terry for his gayness for it's not like he's doing it in front of you. He's just trying to make a living bringing you food. Is that so wrong?"

And, yay verily, don't piss off that Ferrerman behind the bar! Hell hath no fury....

I added the last one myself.

So, IDK if it's an organized effort on the part of the Xtian reich or if it's just an internet thing that has caught on with the cheapskates. You may think your server is gay or lesbian but, what's that really got to do with your dining experience? If they got your food out right and timely, do you really have to care how they take their genitalia when they're off duty and tip or not tip accordingly?


Sunday, November 10, 2013

Try ta get me go to Rehab...

I enjoy the program, The Rehab Addict. I love old houses and that's all the host, Nichole Curtis, works on. She's a quirky little blonde woman who seems pretty capable. She'll wear sandals on the job and refuses to wear a tool belt so, she has little choice but to work for herself because no one in their right mind would let an employee work like that. Well, no one that provides and pays for Workman's Compensation, that is. The tool belt isn't a job requirement- officially- but, unless you're the boss you are not going to get away with borrowing tools from your co-workers for very long. There's a reason carpenters wear tool belts. That's where the tools are!

It's a TV show though and, you have to suspend reality a bit because of that. One thing I have admired about her program is that she doesn't pretend to do an entire kitchen in a weekend like some shows do. Evidently, even if her show had the budget to throw an army of paid pros at a job, she wouldn't do it.

She prefers squads of unpaid amateurs. On her Facebook page she'll put out a call for volunteers in the area to stop by and paint, or clean up, maybe rake leaves. She's even asked for paint that people might have lying around that they don't need....

Not a lot of shows do that. Actually, I don't know of any shows that do that. It's not Habitat For Humanity. It's her job. She buys, rehabs and sells houses. For a living...

Free labor is a republican wet dream. Nothing keeps labor costs down like not paying people. Payroll eats into profits! That's why the American worker has been on a diet since Reagan. The bigger the spread on the table for the wealthy, the better the crumbs for us. That's Reaganomics.

She makes a living at this. How good of a living, I don't know. She claims that it's all her money involved in the construction aspect of the show and that this gives her creative control. I'm assuming that she could get a pretty nice operating budget and the kind of support that other hosts on HGTV/DIY get, if she wanted it. She doesn't want it.

Most of the people you see working on her show are getting paid, by her. I'm thinking not at their usual rate but at a special 'I'M ON TV!!!' rate. I don't see the usual suspects from job to job on her show. Maybe most contractors quickly tire of the demands of television. I read that, because of those demands, the PBS show, Hometime pays extra for contractors to indulge them. I don't think Nichole pays extra for anything....

But, this is her living. Other people have to make a living too. We are all interconnected in this aspect. She claims that, since she's doing these homes in shaky neighborhoods she's helping to revitalize them and working with a very thin profit margin because of those same shaky neighborhoods. She may not be buying the worst house on the block like real estate experts advise but she is selling the best house on the block when she's done. Those other houses must appreciate that.

So, it's bargain-basement remodeling, I guess. Try doing that the next time you buy a house to fix up and make a few bucks off of or just want to remodel your own. Ask folks from the neighborhood to donate materials and labor because you're not gonna make a lot on this but you are "improving the neighborhood". Unless you're a cute blonde with a spankable bottom and a TV show, you're probably not going to get a lot of help.

Tuesday, November 5, 2013


When I heard that an NFL player was bullying another player, my first thought was (after seeing Richie Incognito- the bully) was that his victim had to be a punter or maybe a safety. A smaller guy.

But, the victim, Johnathon Martin is 6'5", 312 pounds. He's a lineman just like Incognito.

It doesn't seem to fit until you consider that, in real life size doesn't always matter. They could both weigh 110 pounds soaking wet and one could still bully the other. Bullying is always psychologically based. Size certainly can be a factor as big kids bully little kids all the time and even into adulthood but, Incognito v. Martin highlights the mental aspect of it. Incognito got over on Martin as easily as he would someone half his size. Clearly he has a more dominant personality. Though linemen all are roughly the same size, fighting abilities aren't the wash it would seem. Bullies count on the promise of violence more than the actual act. If you make someone think you can kick their ass, you already have. That is bullying.

A bully usually is willing to ruin his day along with yours. He (or she) counts on the fact that you don't want the trouble that fighting in school can bring and- of course- you're none too thrilled about the bruising and possible bleeding. So, they do the dance of intimidation. They keep looking until they find the right partner.

I don't know these two guys. I'm gonna guess that Martin is a quiet guy, perhaps kind of a loner. Some people perceive that as weakness.

And Incognito is surely a loud-mouthed asshole. I've only read stories and seen pictures. I'm gonna bet I'm right. Any of you little shits wanna step up and PROVE ME WRONG??!! I DIDN'T THINK SO- YA FUCKIN' PUSSIES!!!!

OK, relax. I was just play-acting, to prove a point! As a Ferrerman, I took an oath to only bully the bullies. But, that little outburst did change the dynamic of this post for a bit, didn't it?

Bullies are almost always "on". They tend to be jagoffs 24/7/365. The anger is always there, even if it's not always showing. Real people may occasionally erupt in anger for various reasons but the bully wallows in it. Few people want to join him there.

My second thought about this was, why were the other players letting this happen, particularly the black players. Incognito  regularly used the nigger ("n-word) word. Why did they put up with that?

Teamwork, I guess. From Pee Wee leagues on up, football players are taught to be tough, hit hard and exploit others weakness's. I'm guessing that many of them looked down on Martin too- for whatever reason. And, I think it's a given that some also feared Incognito. I'm going to guess that Incognito wasn't bluffing about violence like some schoolyard bullies might be. No doubt he can bring it and, well, some of those other big, tough guys probably didn't want to find out that Richie could own them too. So, they went along with it, perhaps thinking: "Better him than me." Evidently, cowards come in all sizes just like bullies. And sometimes- like politics- it's a matter of teamwork. Life is all about which team you choose. Good v. Evil. It happens every day in the schoolyard of life.

Monday, November 4, 2013

But, seriously folks....

Thanks to teapublican efforts to cut spending on things that don't promote republican friends and relations, some 900,000 veterans are going to have their benefits cut, as detailed here:


What the teapublicans did- probably on their way home from standing shoulder to shoulder with veterans in protest of THE MEMORIALS THAT REPUBLICANS HAD SHUT DOWN(!!!!!)- was kill a temporary increase in benefits for all Americans in the SNAP program. It was temporary like Civil Rights. We don't need special laws about Civil Rights in this post-racial America and lazy people don't need extra handouts in this post-recession America. Get over it, losers! This is NOT The Bush Tax Cuts For The Wealthy that were for ten years- in perpetuity, if you will. And, you will! It wasn't like that.

Here's the thing about military service, I guess, according to the GOP. It's not a career. Like McDonalds, it's a part-time job for young people. It doesn't pay well. You are NOT supposed to make a living at it, for God's sake! Sheesh- it's also a government job! No wonder teapublicans hate it! If you want job security in the national security business, start your own militia! Be a job creator! No one gets rich being a private in the government army. Start your own! It's damn near Constitutional....

Though not verbatim, I expressed that over-the-top sentiment on a liberal site where I was pretty confident my brilliance would be met with much support and many likes. Some guy commented right away and it had sailed right over his head. I made some allusion to sarcasm and hoped I was being diplomatic and kind in doing so. One Ferrerman's ridiculous hyperbole is some teatard's actual manifesto. Dedicated non-readers here know me but, out there on the mean streets, I'm open to interpretation. Yep, even among like-minded folk. To be Ferrer....we're all used to reading crazy shit from teapublican posters and politicians that, if you've got an open mind and a sense of humor takes you back a bit and makes you wonder about the sincerity of the speaker. There are some reichwingers on Topix that I think really might be liberals sabotaging the GOP in their own wacky way. Sadly, they're just actual idiots not playing at all.

So, I can see some good people falling  victim to Ferrerman. I'm pretty good at this, ya know. I'm in the Hall Of Fame!

I went to check for likes ('cause I'm needy that way) maybe ten minutes later and noticed the post was gone! Yikes! I wasn't bounced from the site but, there was no explanation. Just comment and replies, gone with the wind. I'd have to guess that from the initial post to postpocalypse was not even 20 minutes. That's pretty fast service!

Oh well. I should have put it on a reichwing site. It'd be fun to hear people support the troops AND the cutting of their funding in the same breath. And what entrepreneur could argue with privatized armies? Our military is about as socialist as  liberal communism gets, ya know. That's gotta change. Can't have that in the GREATEST COUNTRY IN THE WORLD!!!!

Saturday, November 2, 2013

I'm Not Kidding!

Bill Maher and Ann Coulter are friends. That would seem an unlikely pairing because he's so liberal and she's so ridiculously rightwing. But, if you think about it, how common is it for senators from opposing sides of the aisle to dine together and maybe hang out with each others families, off the clock? Very common because most of these people are just phoning it in anyway. That's politics! Fighting in the Senate chambers in the afternoon and then fighting to see who picks up the check at dinner. Not much of fight really as the taxpayers get the tab, regardless.

I saw a short clip of Bill interviewing Ann, last night on his show, and he told her that he's often asked by his fans if she's serious about her stuff. She said this:


So, yeah, she's faking it. She's faking it all the way to the bank. I've never thought she was particularly good at it either but, she really doesn't have to be. In her case, she knows that hyperbole pays really, really good and the republican side of the political coin invites hyperbole. All she has to do is look at an issue through her conservative eyes, light it afire, and she entices both her fellow arsonists and those who have the hearts of firemen.

In other words, people love her and love to hate her. It all pays the same. Being a conservative, especially a crazy one is recession-proof. Literally! Your side can cause a recession and you've got gasoline and matches to...well, burn, because of it.

Seriously, the big money is in complaining. If a republican gets elected you can rejoice but, mostly because now you can continue to complain about how awful the democrat predecessor was that you complained about for the previous 4 to 8 years but, it's different because now he's made everything hard for your guy....so you blame. These people still pin things on Jimmy Carter! He's the guy that set the table for the Reagan years they are so fond of. And Bill Clinton left GW Bush a surplus to go to Crazy Town with and they hate him for that. All Ann has to do is convince idiots that that was bad, probably because of the blow jobs. You can forget that your business probably did just fine under Bill because here's someone telling you that anything that happened later was Bill's fault probably because of who was under Bill at one time....

I think Bill Maher is a serious liberal. He gave a million of his own dollars to reelect President Obama. As a comedian, a president Romney would have paid off a lot better. A LOT better.

So, I think he's serious. While we're at it, how come their aren't any high-profile, hyperbolic, bat-shit crazy democrats? Who comes to mind when you think of crazy republicans? Palin. Coulter. Cruz. Limbaugh. Everyone on FOX- the list goes on.

Who comes to mind when you think of batshit crazy, hyperbolic democrats?

All we've got is Chris Matthews. He's really pretty tame. All they remember is him saying something weird about a "tingle in (his) leg" about Obama. I know they like to portray Rachael Maddow as looney tunes but, she's one of the smartest people ever to comment on politics. She's no Ann Coulter. No one on our side is. There's a reason for that.

If you vote republican in your twenties, it's because you have no brain. If you're still voting republican in your fifties it's because you have no heart. It's just easier being mean, isn't it? It's lowered expectations personified. It's sad but, it pays well because enough people want to hear it. No kidding....

Friday, November 1, 2013

Billy Club

A couple of years ago, I got a PM from BillyR on Topix. I wasn't supposed to get it. I don't know who was supposed to get it but, it wasn't supposed to be me!

BillyR was advising someone that a graybox poster called "Mr Wadds" was Ferrerman because- you know- the Illinois ISP! AND HE'S A PERVERT! WITH THE WOMEN-SPANKING THING!!!! That was the gist of the message. While Billy Rubin is an idiot who has told me that I'm other posters (whether I liked it or not!) he had never done this in PM form before. Billy portrays himself as THE expert in who's who on Topix. He's more of a decider like GW Bush was, because Cheney told him he was a decider. For some, saying it makes it so. Whoever was supposed to get the PM was being instructed to believe Ferrerman was Mr Wadds.

Prior to that, I had figured that Wadds was an invention of *Sam*, the stalker troll. I didn't bother reading much because it was creepy, Human Sexuality Forum stuff but, I knew that *Sam* was trying very hard to pin Wadds on me. He was always following up his Wadds posts at the time with vainglorious, melodramatic threats to Ferrerman that, if Ferrerman didn't quit harassing women on Topix, he would run Ferrerman off!!!! Stupid shit like that, that only idiots could believe. Typical Sam shit.

Well, after the PM I knew it was now typical Billy shit. Sam is Billy. Duh.

So, I've known this for some two years now. If you think two retards pushing the same stupid agenda that Ferrerman IS some scumbag named Mr Wadds is "thin", you probably think that I am every Illinois poster. Topix isn't that simple but, many of it's poster's are. See: Paisley Posley. Sure...the government controls the weather....why couldn't Ferrerman control every Illinois post on Topix....?

It's been interesting. BillyR as BillyR fancies himself a champion of women who all adore him- platonically, of course, because he's married to Mrs Billy and they take their child- The Cho- out for ice cream because the weather in South Florida (where they live, of course...) is quite lovely....

He invites abuse because of gay shit like that. It's very annoying. A bit disingenuous too when his characters like Wadds and Sam and some of his friends, like Laura Beth, attack a few of these women he cherishes so... I enjoyed taunting him about his failure to curtail these other assholes from tormenting Lifelover and Paula, for example. He never had an excuse for that. No reason why it was OK for some of his friends to abuse other friends. A simple, "I like Sam better than Lifelover and respect that he taunts her about her dying husband. That's his right! I don't tell my friends what to do- unless it's what to believe about Ferrerman, of course! Everyone in Billyland must be on the same page about that!  Instead he did nothing. Not very brave, this BillyR. No wonder he needs characters.

Clearly, he uses personas like Sam, Wadds, Michael and various combinations of those (and others?) to harass other posters besides me. As if his BillyR persona weren't creepy enough, he has to be those others too? Sheesh. It's like "FIGHT CLUB" for the internet.  As if the whole, ultra creepy twin bullshit with Princess isn't ultra creepy enough....mom always liked you best....