Tuesday, November 26, 2013

Department Of Corrections

Well, it seems that the ex-Marine, New Jersey, lesbian waitress might not have been as discriminated against  as we were led to believe Let's go to the videotape:http://www.nbcchicago.com/news/national-international/Gay-Server-Tip-Lifestyle-Receipt-Discrepancy-233040811.html

The couple seems legitimate. They weren't identified and thus ridiculed in the initial story and there stepping up  now is in the shadows. They aren't looking for 15 minutes of fame in silhouette and, since the public doesn't know it was them and they've been wrongly outed as homophobes,   it's not as if they could sue the restaurant for damages.

I think they are just coming clean because a disturbed individual created a ruckus for their own self-aggrandizement.

As a Ferrerman, I deal with that a lot. You may have noticed. Lots of sick puppies out there, on and off the internet.

I'm also wondering if we got the real story with the Richie Incognito bullying scenario. I began to wonder about this actually shortly after the story broke and I caught part of an interview with Incognito. (Ferrerman note: Can you help but smile at that name? Sounds like a name for a kids cartoon,  "Richie Incognito- Boy Detective!") Anyway, Incognito seemed dazed and confused by the allegations and he was actually quite a bit more well-spoken and presentable than I would have expected.

There was a brief national dialogue about bullying and how bad it is. But, it never really took off. Maybe it was hard for us to grasp that guys as big as Jonathon Martin could be bullied. For the record, I stand by my assessment that bullying is often psychological and that that can trump size any day. There is no standard scenario here. Even republicans didn't seem too interested in condemning liberals and Obama for making America weak by giving every loser kid a plastic trophy for showing up for Little League.

So, it could have happened but, I'm wondering if it did. The locker room culture of the NFL was brought to the forefront and I can see that being a factor there but hardly anywhere else in life. Incognito's black teammates may indeed see him as one of them- "an honorary nigger".  That's their problem if they self-identify like that. I'm sure there is a certain way pro football players talk to each other just as there probably is a certain way soldiers talk to each other and I know there is a certain way construction workers talk to each other. And none of these are commonly acceptable amongst strangers on the street. One man's fightin' words might be a pro footballer's greeting and salutations.

So, though uncouth and vulgar, it's probably the way they do things, at least among the Miami Dolphins. That doesn't justify, it just explains. It might just be that Incognito is an acceptable jerk in one environment but, not in public, and that Martin wasn't open to that and probably has other issues. He left the team and, to my knowledge, hasn't given any interviews. I thought that was kinda odd. He must really have wanted to be left alone. How unusual. That's a trend in itself maybe?


6 comments:

Thankful I'm Carl said...

Some folks are such narcissists that they will willingly make themselves victims for the attention whether or not they've been wronged.

We've seen too much of that topix to be sure.

ex-ferrer said...

The couple had actually left a nice tip. Perhaps the only thing they had done 'wrong' was get her name wrong. They first heard it as "Dan", not Danya. What if the server had been Chris?

Anonymous said...

You're right, there is a certain way NFLers or soldiers or construction workers or Topix trolls talk to each other. I bet many of the trolls that are neocon in nature don't act half as civilized in the real world. My only question is without icons, how do they show their displeasure while hiding their identity?

Anonymous said...

byline: Deer Whisperer/Luke

If this newest revelation and receipt are true, this blows a big one.

The end of the article is certainly key: IF it s true that these donations have been given to a wounded vet group that's all well and good. But it should be known that falsehood is the catalyst.

Or her first name was Tyler/Taylor?

ex-ferrer said...

It is under false pretenses if so. I bet it wasn't her end game, DW, but, possibly it was her way of 'fixing' things when she thought she might get called out. I was thinking there was another waitress story where the heroine shared the love? Maybe when that gal got like a $10,000 tip? Something like that?

Anonymous said...

Byline: Deer Whisperer/Luke


The waitress outted for dishonesty and the restaurant have had a 'mutual' parting.